Compassion or
There are
ex-convicts and people who do not display self-help. People who do realize they
are out cold on the ground but will not start with self, they look to others
first. People who want others to do all the work in getting them from off of
the ground. These people choose not to demonstrate self-help they want all help
at the expense of others. People like this will have excuses, will do the bare
minimum if anything and believe that someone should be doing all for them. It’s
easier to be complacent and not change. There is no work or energy required to
settle and stay where one already is. In giving excuses one can be complacent,
will not have to put in work or energy to find them still on the ground and
even more hopeless. “Guilt, of course, is feeling bad about one’s actions, but
shame is feeling bad about oneself. Failure, embarrassment, weakness,
overwhelming worthlessness and feeling disgracefully “less than” -all
permeating the marrow of the soul” (Boyle 46). Guilt so deeply ingrained they
feel it within their entire being. A person feeling so shameful that even the
simplest kind of help is non-deserving.
They too need much help they have given up, are tired, hopeless, and depressed.
They need an uplifting within their hearts and souls.
In essence, you
are beating a dead horse. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it
drink. You cannot force anyone to change they must be ready and willing to do
so. A person must hit the absolute rock bottom to want to get help. In order
for a person to be willing to change they must realize they are out cold on the
ground and have no one else but self to help them up. Once this realization has
happened they demonstrate self-help. These are the people the ex-convicts we
must help.
People should help an ex-convict if
they are willing to help themselves. Any individual that demonstrates self-help
is showing the want to be different, out with the old and in with the new.
Change is not easy to do on ones on accord; a helping hand is always an
appreciated gesture when willing to change. People can assist in giving rides,
in educating or breaking into the true self of an ex-convict. To put oneself in
the shoes of the ex-convict, who truly wants change it all may be confusing,
scary or just uncommon territory to explore for change to occur. We all have
unexplored areas within ourselves that can be extremely terrifying so anyone
would value a helping hand. You do all that you can in helping now that an
ex-convict wants the help. Many other circumstances may arise to cloud their
thinking and change their mind about wanting to change.
